I'm currently reading Paradise Lost which I've never done before, not all the way through anyway. I'm up to Book 9 in which Satan convinces Eve to eat the fruit from the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, saying she won't die but will become godlike. Eve eats the forbidden fruit and then goes to Adam and confesses what she has done at which Adam follows suit, thus falling with her. According to Milton, this was because he was so enamoured of her he couldn't bear the thought of life without her which might seem relatively virtuous but is still putting self above God and a creature above the Creator which is idolatry. What should he have done? You might think this is a silly question, given the story's metaphorical nature, but it raises an interesting point. If those we love turn away from God, what can we do?
The answer is not much. Jesus said he had come to turn a man against his father and a daughter against her mother, and that a man's enemies will be the members of his own household. This is a radical, highly emotive teaching and yet it must be true. If people reject God, and we know that many do, we cannot allow ourselves to fall with them. We can, we surely must, do everything in our power to convince them of their error but, when push comes to shove, we have to choose. God or not God. We can pray for those we love but everyone's will is their own and we cannot force anyone to turn to the light, and nor can we allow their mistake to influence us.
This might seem a cruel doctrine but what is the alternative? Spiritual awakening is possible right up to death and so we should never lose hope and always work to encourage that. Moreover, it is possible that even after death we may be allowed to go to those we have loved who are trapped in spiritual darkness. Stories from the world of spiritualism do imply this. But our prime responsibility is to God and our own soul, and what Adam should have done when faced with his dilemma was to refuse to eat the apple himself and then help Eve in her fallen state as best he could.
I believe that the roots of the current war between men and women, in which feminism is a major battle, date back to the fall when complements joined by love became opposites striving for power or the former became mixed up with the latter. Hence the bickering of Adam and Eve with each blaming the other after they had fallen. The only way we can bring peace to this war, in which the two halves of humanity all too often see each other as rivals rather than partners, is through love. But then each side must be worthy of love which means that each side must ask itself not what can it get from the other or how it can use the other but how can it serve the other.
Adam would have best helped Eve by staying faithful to God. Similarly, modern man will only resolve the crisis caused by feminism by staying faithful to God and his own self, certainly not by going along with it even out of misconceived notions of equality. Only then will he be worthy of the role assigned to him in Creation.